How To Avoid The Premature Birth Of Your Dreams and how To Birthing Your BIG Dream Successfully
One of the challenges that those of us who have dreams often face, is to clearly understand timing.
But as an avid vegetable gardener (and I even have a stainless steel shovel to prove it) I have come to understand one thing. And that is, that there is a time lapse between when a seed is planted and when the fruit of that seed is harvested.
But how often do we, when we receive a dream, rush off headlong into one of two things: disaster or disappointment. And that, in many cases, is where the dream dies.
But may I encourage you, that when the seed of a dream is planted in your heart and mind, that you take time to remind yourself that there is a time to plant and that there is a time to reap. And there is also a time inbetween for growth to occur.
It may be weeks, or months or even years before that seed is fully grown.
But in the meantime, stay focussed, and be diligent in the daily disciplines of life by doing all the little things well. Demand excellence in everything you do and in due course you will see the unfolding of your dreams and the fulfilment of your heart’s desires.
Don’t let your dream die because you are forcing it to be birthed prematurely.
For as the good book states in Ecclesiastes 3: ‘There’s an opportune time to do things, a right time for everything on the earth.’
how To Birthing Your BIG Dream Successfully
As I move forward in my rebranding process and begin to articulate more clearly what I do, I’ve realized that a key focus is on helping people understand with total clarity what their BIG dream is, distill it down to the right essence, then birth it successfully and efficiently in a way that aligns with their passions, values, needs and wants.
The dreams women have shared with me over the past 10 years come in all flavors, shapes and sizes, including:
- Moving from a crushing corporate HR role to building a thriving new landscape design business
- Stepping up with more leadership power, authority and self-confidence to run a global division of her company
- Separating from an addictive, abusive relationship to a supporting, loving environment and a meaningful job
- Making three times more money doing the coaching work she absolutely adores (monetizing and leveraging her important messages and content)
- Relocating to another country with her family to experience the great adventure of it
- Reclaiming her passion for dancing and movement, and exploring starting a yoga studio
- Honoring her longings to become a professional writer, and beginning blogging and writing
- Emerging from a crippling divorce and no recent work experience to running a thriving private practice
- Leaving a Fortune 100 senior level role to contribute to a small startup making a huge difference
- Radically improving her family’s life by picking up and moving across the country to pursue a healthier, more down-to-earth lifestyle
So, how do we birth big dreams successfully?
The reality is that most of us aren’t ready for our dreams to come true today – we need to expand, power up and grow braver in order to hold and emanate the large amount of energy required to live our dreams. To be successful at the level we dream of, we need stronger boundaries, more direct communication, greater self-awareness, increased self-confidence through aligned action, a deeper understanding of who we want to serve (and who we need to walk away from), and a staunch commitment to creating supportive relationships that will nurture and accelerate our growth.
I’ve learned a great deal about dreaming big and life reinvention through my own journey (and some huge missteps) and from helping hundreds of others. From these experiences, I’ve found there are 5 key steps to launching big dreams successfully:
- Understand who you really are, uniquely
You can’t dream BIG and live out these dreams if you don’t understand your own value, importance, and talents. Most women I work with grossly underestimate what they have to offer the world. And the majority of dreamers think their dream is thousands of light years away and utterly outlandish, when in actuality it’s only a number of critical steps away.
You need to step back and disengage from the negative chatter and crushing bustle of your life to gain an empowered perspective of who you are, and to make fuller use of the talents and strengths you possess. Whatever you think you have to offer, I’m relatively sure that it’s one thousand times bigger and more important to the world than you think it is.
- Close your “power gaps” (and we all have them) to overcome the obstacles in your way
When I say “power gaps,” I’m referring to the areas in your life where you feel “less then,” unworthy, vulnerable, insecure, shameful, or inferior. We all have these gaps. Some feel insecure about how they parent. Others lack confidence in their communication ability or their leadership strength. For others still, there’s a feeling they’re just not smart or clever enough to do what they long to, and they fear they’ll fail at anything they try. For yet others, their shyness keeps them hiding their light under a bushel.
These are all power gaps – areas that are calling out for an intervention and infusion of strength and courage. To close your power gaps, first identify the one area today that makes you feel most insecure and weak, and do something about it to build your strength.
- Identify the “essence” of what you want, then find the right “form” of it
So many people today are desperately unhappy in their current situations, and fantasize intensively about one new direction thinking it will be the panacea, but haven’t explored this direction enough to know if it’s really right for them. We’ve all fallen victim to the “grass is always greener on the other side” myth, but until we step over the fence to “try it on” we just can’t know. Before you leap, research, research, research what this new direction means and entails, and what it will give you (and the sacrifices it will demand of you) to pursue it. The key is to find the right “form” of the dream so that when you achieve it, it brings to your life what you hope for.
- Connect all your dots
As the inspiring Steve Jobs explores in his compelling Stanford commencement speech years ago, if you follow what excites and enlivens you, and continue to do this throughout your life and career, the dots will eventually connect. You’ll find yourself in a situation where you’re using everything exciting and important you’ve ever learned, and you’ll apply it in ways that matter to you, in service to others. But this is true only if you continually ask yourself, “What do I long to be doing?” and listen to the answers. If you honor in some meaningful way your visions of how you wish to be of service in the world, the dots will indeed connect. The happiest, most successful people today have found a way to honor all key dimensions of themselves — their personality, values, needs, and talents – and nothing is wasted.
- Build a support structure to help you expand
Finally, big dreams don’t thrive in a vacuum, without being supported, fanned, and bolstered. And you can’t fertilize your dreams sufficiently all by yourself. You need loving ambassadors, mentors, sponsors, and supporters who believe in you, and who see the future vision of you before it’s hatched. These supporters know how to keep you true to your dream even when you’re so afraid that all you want to do is run.
To launch your big dream into the world as a healthy baby ready to thrive, you need a “village” to support you, and it.
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