How To Be Happy Always
‘I look on that man as happy, who, when there is question of success, looks into his work for a reply, not into the market, not into opinion, not into patronage.’ Ralph Waldo Emerson
Mankind seems to be always on the seemingly unending search for the illusive entity we call happiness.
In order to secure happiness people have pursued it in the form of money, possessions, relationships, job satisfaction, career fulfillment, sex, power – and the list goes on and on and on.
But the facts are that if happiness could be achieved by ‘power, possessions and popularity…Joseph Stalin wouldn’t have been afraid to go to sleep at night or been so paranoid that he appointed a soldier to guard his teabags. If possessions could do it, fear wouldn’t have caused billionaire Howard Hughes to live like a hermit and die alone. If popularity could do it, John Lennon’s biographers wouldn’t have described him as a fearful man who slept with the lights on and was terrified of germs.’
That is why the wisdom of Ralph Waldo Emerson rings true with me even into the 21st Century.
Our race is our own race. Our competition is our last performance. Our reward is aligned to our expectations.
To please yourself, then please yourself.
For as long as it is something that is aligned with your values and your beliefs, you will rest easy at night – happy.
I Personally Love To Create – Anything
Personally I love the process of creation. I suppose that it has everything to do with the fact that I have an intimate and personal relationship with the creator of all things. Now no matter what religion you hold dear – it is hard to argue that the flower, the bird, the waterfall, the sunrise simply happened by chance.
For as Robin Knox-Johnston, the round the world sailor, said: ‘There is no such thing as an atheist in the Southern Ocean.’
I personally don’t care if it is a book, a conversation, a speech, a blog, a garden, a musical, a poem, a song, a meal, a property deal, a sale, or a marketing campaign. I get as much satisfaction out of creating any of those – for I look into my work for a reply – nowhere else.
Oh sure it is nice to receive adoration from others, but it is not necessary for my state of well-being, my sense of success nor my personal happiness.
That way I handle rejection – rather than rejection handling me.
I affirm my belief by always giving 111% to whatever task I undertake. The spirit of excellence undergirds everything that I do, even if it is simply cleaning my house.
I passionately pursue whatever project I undertake – knowing that at the end of the day I will look back at what I have created and it will be saying to me ever so gently, ‘Well done!’
I don’t need the acclaim or accolades of men in order to secure my happiness. And whenever they do happen to come my way I simply say ‘thank you’ and move on with my next project.
A Question Of Success
- So when it comes to success, how will you answer the question?
- Will you await someone’s acceptance of what you have done or said?
- Will you stand in line in order to receive some approval from another?
- Will you rest on the excuse that no one ever gives you a chance?
- Or are you always going to be waiting for your lucky break?
Today, like no other time in history, there are so many opportunities that await us in order to make our own success. We can carve our own way. We don’t need another’s permission.
Not once have I asked another man if I could start a new business in an industry that I had no real knowledge, or whether I could publish a book that every literary agent and publisher I approached around the world rejected. I didn’t need to enquire as to the appropriateness of writing this blog that reaches people from over 190 nations.
Just go do.
Do good work.
Be true to who you are.
In the beginning – YOU were created – and God saw that you were good.
So go be the good that you were created to be.
Persist with a dogged persistence.
Never, never, ever quit.
Get up once you’re knocked down. Dust yourself off – a little wiser. Go again.
Make mistakes your teacher – not your prison guard.
Never retire. Refire.
Associate – with those who put fire in your belly.
And while you are doing all this BE HAPPY.